Mark thank you for this, just recently subscribed. I am the steward of a ministry at Fort Johnson in LA and am working with a soldier through some porn struggles. What I have noticed is his loneliness. The marriage prospects are so dismal too. The risk to him I think seems so high but I have counseled him that as Christ followers we do not have a spirit of fear. I am just wondering if you have any ideas on helping young men and women meet and engage with one another?
Porn and masturbation will only keep him spiraling into loneliness. The oxytocin produced at climax is meant to bond us with the other person, but the images on the screen are not really people to bond with.
My second book is called Pure Hearted: Banding Together for Sexual Wholeness. It is based upon a model of doing life with a band of brothers. I would say that one key step forward for this brother is to be praying for one or two other men to meet with weekly. I've been in a band for probably 7 years. It's not a Bible study nor simply an accountability group. It is a small circle of brothers to be real with.
For resources on bands, or to buy either of my books, you can go to seedbed.com. Info and a pdf on bands can be found under their Resources tab. If banded together with the right 1-3 people, it can meet the loneliness and perhaps be a first step toward overcoming the addiction.
Mark, thank you so much for your posts in Tsunami Surfing. Very informative. May Gos bless your ministry.
Jim Fish
Thanks much, Jim. Let's keep our hands to the plow, not look back, and keep our fixed on Jesus as he leads us. Peace!
Mark thank you for this, just recently subscribed. I am the steward of a ministry at Fort Johnson in LA and am working with a soldier through some porn struggles. What I have noticed is his loneliness. The marriage prospects are so dismal too. The risk to him I think seems so high but I have counseled him that as Christ followers we do not have a spirit of fear. I am just wondering if you have any ideas on helping young men and women meet and engage with one another?
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Porn and masturbation will only keep him spiraling into loneliness. The oxytocin produced at climax is meant to bond us with the other person, but the images on the screen are not really people to bond with.
My second book is called Pure Hearted: Banding Together for Sexual Wholeness. It is based upon a model of doing life with a band of brothers. I would say that one key step forward for this brother is to be praying for one or two other men to meet with weekly. I've been in a band for probably 7 years. It's not a Bible study nor simply an accountability group. It is a small circle of brothers to be real with.
For resources on bands, or to buy either of my books, you can go to seedbed.com. Info and a pdf on bands can be found under their Resources tab. If banded together with the right 1-3 people, it can meet the loneliness and perhaps be a first step toward overcoming the addiction.