I have found this idea of pursuers and distancers to be quite helpful for myself and for the people I counsel. It's important information in the journey of self-awareness.
Thank you for this excellent correction for all of us, and especially for whole families and societies that are leaners of one kind or another. The cross cultural application is so insightful and helpful. I think we tend to be dismissive about how, and how much, cultural and subcultural groups operate within these ways of being and with predicable consequences. And I firmly agree that we/I need to find my needs and my corrections in God, my Savior, as both you and Terry advise. But I sense that it is difficult within our current version of Christianity to find those "resource people" who are genuinely connected to God in a way that is worth imitating, Good advise, therefore, becomes the substitute for real experience and so we are left with one gnostic platitude after another, a kind of unending circle that becomes normative. God really IS available to us and really DOES meet our deepest needs and corrects our twisted imbalances and we do NOT have to settle for "The Real Absence" of Jesus! My two cents! :-)
When I read stuff like this it makes me wonder if it doesn’t explain how I ended up 49 years old never married and never been in love. Last date I had was 35 years ago. I always thought I was just one of those people not created to desire that kind of relationship and it never really bothered me. Hummm
I have found this idea of pursuers and distancers to be quite helpful for myself and for the people I counsel. It's important information in the journey of self-awareness.
Thank you for this excellent correction for all of us, and especially for whole families and societies that are leaners of one kind or another. The cross cultural application is so insightful and helpful. I think we tend to be dismissive about how, and how much, cultural and subcultural groups operate within these ways of being and with predicable consequences. And I firmly agree that we/I need to find my needs and my corrections in God, my Savior, as both you and Terry advise. But I sense that it is difficult within our current version of Christianity to find those "resource people" who are genuinely connected to God in a way that is worth imitating, Good advise, therefore, becomes the substitute for real experience and so we are left with one gnostic platitude after another, a kind of unending circle that becomes normative. God really IS available to us and really DOES meet our deepest needs and corrects our twisted imbalances and we do NOT have to settle for "The Real Absence" of Jesus! My two cents! :-)
When I read stuff like this it makes me wonder if it doesn’t explain how I ended up 49 years old never married and never been in love. Last date I had was 35 years ago. I always thought I was just one of those people not created to desire that kind of relationship and it never really bothered me. Hummm