This post made a lot of sense to me. Motivations are often very complex. It's very naive to assume that people can "just say no" when the unmet need is gong unaddressed.
Mark - Very helpful insights of the dynamics behind BDSM addiction, and the approach, as always, to identify what led to the pain driving these choices and focus on healing those issues first.
Your article also reminded me that I need better insights on the issue of cutting. Do you or any of our other readers have further information on this?
Cutting has become so very common in the past two decades. Whether it is due to the internet or something else, but it seems to be the go-to relief for distracting someone from the pain on the inside. My guess is this may be why the demoniac in Mark 5 was in the graveyard cutting himself. That's a guess. I know that there are times when the demonized in other religions beat and whip themselves . . . but I am certainly digressing.
One counselee found a helpful group online to deal with cutting, but again, the answer is to look below the surface to the pain and work to bring healing to the trauma. If they are willing to quit the cutting, I ask them to pay attention to the emotions that rise to the surface. The pain or anxiety which bubble up provide clues as to what is stirring deeply within.
This post made a lot of sense to me. Motivations are often very complex. It's very naive to assume that people can "just say no" when the unmet need is gong unaddressed.
Mark - Very helpful insights of the dynamics behind BDSM addiction, and the approach, as always, to identify what led to the pain driving these choices and focus on healing those issues first.
Your article also reminded me that I need better insights on the issue of cutting. Do you or any of our other readers have further information on this?
Cutting has become so very common in the past two decades. Whether it is due to the internet or something else, but it seems to be the go-to relief for distracting someone from the pain on the inside. My guess is this may be why the demoniac in Mark 5 was in the graveyard cutting himself. That's a guess. I know that there are times when the demonized in other religions beat and whip themselves . . . but I am certainly digressing.
One counselee found a helpful group online to deal with cutting, but again, the answer is to look below the surface to the pain and work to bring healing to the trauma. If they are willing to quit the cutting, I ask them to pay attention to the emotions that rise to the surface. The pain or anxiety which bubble up provide clues as to what is stirring deeply within.
Anyone else have more of a detailed answer?