I really agree about the purity culture of the 90s. That's the culture I grew up in. It caused me a tremendous amount of damage. That is why, when our girls had their 15th birthdays, we gave them rings, but didn't use them to exact some type of promise from them. Instead, the rings were to symbolize our commitment to them, to never leave them.
Excellent post (I am running out of supurlatives). I especially appreciate that you recognize that "one size doesn't fit all" when talking to young people about sex. We had two children. One was very comfortable talking about sexuality and the other was the extreme opposite. Also, regarding purity culture, it was not something our denomination was involved in. However, one girl in our parish was got introduced to it via her extended family. It seemed to have the "forbidden fruit effect," increasing a desire where there was not so much before.
I really agree about the purity culture of the 90s. That's the culture I grew up in. It caused me a tremendous amount of damage. That is why, when our girls had their 15th birthdays, we gave them rings, but didn't use them to exact some type of promise from them. Instead, the rings were to symbolize our commitment to them, to never leave them.
Jon Tyson's "The Intentional Father: A Practical Guide to Raise Sons of Courage and Character" is an excellent resource for dads raising sons.
Excellent post (I am running out of supurlatives). I especially appreciate that you recognize that "one size doesn't fit all" when talking to young people about sex. We had two children. One was very comfortable talking about sexuality and the other was the extreme opposite. Also, regarding purity culture, it was not something our denomination was involved in. However, one girl in our parish was got introduced to it via her extended family. It seemed to have the "forbidden fruit effect," increasing a desire where there was not so much before.